I never got married, raised an astonishing daughter (who I am lucky enough to live with now in my third act of life) and when people say to me, "wow, you look/act/are amazing, what's your secret?" I have always said, "I was never domesticated!!" I do think women especially need to reclaim their wildness right now, and be big and large with it. To speak up, to shout out, to refuse to comply, to have opinions and shout them from the rooftops. To leave abusive relationships and dare to strike out on our own, to trust that support will come from unexpected and expected places, to dare to let go of safe and comfortable. I subscribe to Matthew Crawford on Substack, and he recently had this to say:
"Over the past few months I have received a large number of communications—both from friends, interested parties, and people whom I don't trust alike—that go something like this, "You're opening a very dangerous can of worms."
Yeah, well, we all die somehow. What a shame it would be for that to mean nothing."
I was so struck by that - what a shame it would be for my death to mean nothing! Those of us who have lived a full and rich life already, this is why we are here.
I just flew my C-182 around Central Texas today. Went to Arkansas and fly fished for rainbows and brown trout earlier this week. Saw the dam JFK dedicated .. America is worth standing up and fighting for!!
Jun 25, 2022·edited Jun 25, 2022Liked by Monica Hughes PhD
Life is full of risks! Live it fully!
I was wild and adventurous in my twenties.
I was also domesticated, as a stay at home mother (by choice) to four daughters, but managed to retain my wildness by giving birth to my last three daughters without an MD, the last two at home with midwives, and raising them holistically.
As a divorced woman with controversial views on just about everything mainstream, I am now, at age 63, more wild and outspoken than ever.
Oh Out of Africa…my absolutely FAVORITE movie! I’m not one to watch a film over and over but Out of Africa is my exception. Plus I love the music. I think I was there in a previous life! 🙏🏻💓
Yes! I love gatomalo’s motto: become ungovernable. Apply that to every sphere of your life and experience the real joy of freedom. Nothing tastes sweeter.
While serving in the RAF many years ago and doing an overseas tour in Germany I will never forget the day when I saw the pilot of a Secpcat Jaguar eject after snagging his undercarriage on the arrester barriers during a routine landing. When talking later with the squadron goundcrew I learned that the various squadrons would compete with eachother as who could get the tire marks on landing closest to the barrier.
Well! So we’ve been living differently and (some might say) ‘dangerously’ for decades, and even more ‘dangerously’ (I think most would say) the past decade, crossing oceans full time in a small boat and living a life a large majority will dream about, but will never actually do. Where nature essentially rules the roost, and you go the sleep (if you have the chance) knowing that the next day will be totally different from the one you just experienced. For most, routines run their lives even if they don’t think about it that way. Routines are comforting. We understand and respect that, but living dangerously requires one to step out of the comfort zones routines provide.
We are 67 and 66. Married 42 years. Together for 46. One of our marriage ‘goals’ was to cram as much adventure and adrenaline rushes into however much time we had left on the earth. And to instill the same sense into our two boys.
We are not wealthy and at times have struggled financially for the simple refusal to try and fit ourselves into what most of society considers normal. The farther removed from that we are, the better we like it.
We are physically slowing down a bit now. Age and some of our ‘adventures’ (and mishaps lol) are now beginning to show up in our physical bodies. But we are as spiritually and mentally sharp as we have ever been. And the next adventure and a new dose of living dangerously is looming on the horizon. We can’t quite see it yet, but if I had to guess it will be showing up shortly.
I work for an alumni group made up of retired aviators. These guys were all the best of the best! (sorry not sorry for the reference to Top Gun :) ) Over the years I've learned a few things about them that have changed my life: 1. they all have a true passion and joy for what they do/did- in their case - flying; 2. they all have a very deep faith in a higher power, and 3. they all believe in giving back. Working for them has been one of my greatest blessings- I used to live my life fearfully but now I try every day to be the best human I can be and to get out there and live.
Best way to learn though. You do need to have a good skipper, not some idiot who thinks she or he is King Neptune. I liked to sub because I could always say no and if I did not have a good time I didn’t have to go back. Racing can suck when there is no wind, or when there is way too much wind. But as you obviously already know, you learn a lot of stuff quickly.
Found one! Piper Tripacer - used - under $40,000!!!!! I'm ALL in ...... now to convince my wife (she's still pissed over the sailboat I bought 10 years ago).....
"The Last Beach" was filmed in Melbourne in the 50s. Garbo famously said she could see why it was called "The Edge of the Earth". The last humans left, taking crazy risks, risking lives... because there would be NO next Generation. But it'll be strerility, not radiation, that cloaks the earth in silence.
Whereas sailing offshore takes brains, not balls. Haha. I can’t think of anywhere I have ever been where racers were not looking for crew. Even semi warm bodies would suffice. And if you knew anything at all about sailing, sign her up. I’m sure that wherever you are close to, there is a local racing organization. In New Bern for example it was Neuse River Yachting Assoc. Someone looking to crew could contact them via email or phone. Then they would blast out an email saying they had a live one. 2/3 of the boats in the fleet were always short handed. I was on the sub list. I got multiple calls every race. It’s really the best way to learn, if you have a good skipper.
I never got married, raised an astonishing daughter (who I am lucky enough to live with now in my third act of life) and when people say to me, "wow, you look/act/are amazing, what's your secret?" I have always said, "I was never domesticated!!" I do think women especially need to reclaim their wildness right now, and be big and large with it. To speak up, to shout out, to refuse to comply, to have opinions and shout them from the rooftops. To leave abusive relationships and dare to strike out on our own, to trust that support will come from unexpected and expected places, to dare to let go of safe and comfortable. I subscribe to Matthew Crawford on Substack, and he recently had this to say:
"Over the past few months I have received a large number of communications—both from friends, interested parties, and people whom I don't trust alike—that go something like this, "You're opening a very dangerous can of worms."
Yeah, well, we all die somehow. What a shame it would be for that to mean nothing."
I was so struck by that - what a shame it would be for my death to mean nothing! Those of us who have lived a full and rich life already, this is why we are here.
I just flew my C-182 around Central Texas today. Went to Arkansas and fly fished for rainbows and brown trout earlier this week. Saw the dam JFK dedicated .. America is worth standing up and fighting for!!
Life is full of risks! Live it fully!
I was wild and adventurous in my twenties.
I was also domesticated, as a stay at home mother (by choice) to four daughters, but managed to retain my wildness by giving birth to my last three daughters without an MD, the last two at home with midwives, and raising them holistically.
As a divorced woman with controversial views on just about everything mainstream, I am now, at age 63, more wild and outspoken than ever.
Oh Out of Africa…my absolutely FAVORITE movie! I’m not one to watch a film over and over but Out of Africa is my exception. Plus I love the music. I think I was there in a previous life! 🙏🏻💓
Yes! I love gatomalo’s motto: become ungovernable. Apply that to every sphere of your life and experience the real joy of freedom. Nothing tastes sweeter.
While serving in the RAF many years ago and doing an overseas tour in Germany I will never forget the day when I saw the pilot of a Secpcat Jaguar eject after snagging his undercarriage on the arrester barriers during a routine landing. When talking later with the squadron goundcrew I learned that the various squadrons would compete with eachother as who could get the tire marks on landing closest to the barrier.
🤣when did you learn how to fly? Yesterday 🥁🛎
Well! So we’ve been living differently and (some might say) ‘dangerously’ for decades, and even more ‘dangerously’ (I think most would say) the past decade, crossing oceans full time in a small boat and living a life a large majority will dream about, but will never actually do. Where nature essentially rules the roost, and you go the sleep (if you have the chance) knowing that the next day will be totally different from the one you just experienced. For most, routines run their lives even if they don’t think about it that way. Routines are comforting. We understand and respect that, but living dangerously requires one to step out of the comfort zones routines provide.
We are 67 and 66. Married 42 years. Together for 46. One of our marriage ‘goals’ was to cram as much adventure and adrenaline rushes into however much time we had left on the earth. And to instill the same sense into our two boys.
We are not wealthy and at times have struggled financially for the simple refusal to try and fit ourselves into what most of society considers normal. The farther removed from that we are, the better we like it.
We are physically slowing down a bit now. Age and some of our ‘adventures’ (and mishaps lol) are now beginning to show up in our physical bodies. But we are as spiritually and mentally sharp as we have ever been. And the next adventure and a new dose of living dangerously is looming on the horizon. We can’t quite see it yet, but if I had to guess it will be showing up shortly.
I work for an alumni group made up of retired aviators. These guys were all the best of the best! (sorry not sorry for the reference to Top Gun :) ) Over the years I've learned a few things about them that have changed my life: 1. they all have a true passion and joy for what they do/did- in their case - flying; 2. they all have a very deep faith in a higher power, and 3. they all believe in giving back. Working for them has been one of my greatest blessings- I used to live my life fearfully but now I try every day to be the best human I can be and to get out there and live.
Best way to learn though. You do need to have a good skipper, not some idiot who thinks she or he is King Neptune. I liked to sub because I could always say no and if I did not have a good time I didn’t have to go back. Racing can suck when there is no wind, or when there is way too much wind. But as you obviously already know, you learn a lot of stuff quickly.
Have a safe one ...
Found one! Piper Tripacer - used - under $40,000!!!!! I'm ALL in ...... now to convince my wife (she's still pissed over the sailboat I bought 10 years ago).....
"The Last Beach" was filmed in Melbourne in the 50s. Garbo famously said she could see why it was called "The Edge of the Earth". The last humans left, taking crazy risks, risking lives... because there would be NO next Generation. But it'll be strerility, not radiation, that cloaks the earth in silence.
That was amazing!
Whereas sailing offshore takes brains, not balls. Haha. I can’t think of anywhere I have ever been where racers were not looking for crew. Even semi warm bodies would suffice. And if you knew anything at all about sailing, sign her up. I’m sure that wherever you are close to, there is a local racing organization. In New Bern for example it was Neuse River Yachting Assoc. Someone looking to crew could contact them via email or phone. Then they would blast out an email saying they had a live one. 2/3 of the boats in the fleet were always short handed. I was on the sub list. I got multiple calls every race. It’s really the best way to learn, if you have a good skipper.
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